There’s a proverb, that states ‘don’t judge a book by its
cover’. That proverb only suggests, that there’s a lot more something about
anyone, or anything, than just the appearance. It doesn’t really suggest that I
shouldn’t judge people, though. Eventually people will judge me, and I will
judge people. It’s like a circle, which has no end.
I used to tell myself to not judge other people. But, does
it even make sense? I even judge my own self! Let’s see: after bath I pick my
clothes. I try it on, then look at the mirror. I asses the good point from that
cloth, and if I wasn’t satisfied, I try another. After a few moments of
consideration, I pick my final decision. Now, isn’t it judging?
Consciously and unconsciously, I do judge people. We do. And
people do judge us. So, what matters is we judge people fairly. Just like a
judge, there are laws and regulations. I find it important to keep emotions on
check during the assessment and consideration, so we won’t be tangled in them.
On the other side, it’s better to not speak out our judgment. That’s where the
Bible passage plays: “Therefore, judge nothing before the appointed time; wait
till the Lord comes.” (1 Chor 4:5, NIV). It’s really important to know, that
all judgments will come back to you. When you do judge people, do it because:
1. You do want to help or 2. You don’t want to be like that.
My idea is, for every one judgment I want to say, I have to
think 4 times. If I am not sure I want to tell them, think it over. If I think I
better tell them, think it over. If I am already sure I want to tell them,
think it over. And last but not least, when I already stand before them and are
about to tell, think it over.
Well, keeping ourselves from falsely judging people is hard.
But keeping people from judging us falsely? It’s impossible. My only idea is
this: keep calm. Every time I feel or already hear that I was falsely judged
and it starts to get on my nerve, I close my eyes and take a deep breath 3
times. Sometimes, all we need is 3 deep breaths and we could see better. If you
feel you are judged because you are indeed at faults, well, you already know
what you should do. But mostly, I try to think that they judge falsely me
because I’m important and famous. They are just jealous, blablabla. We could
pat their backs, so they would be ashamed of their behavior and treat us
better. And sometimes, we could high five them. On their face. With a chair.
Really, we actually already know how to deal with these…familiar people ;)
Just for the record, today I judged a girl as bitch. It
wasn’t a very nice thing to do, besides my emotions totally got in the way. So,
I will assess deeper, until I could finally say she’s a nice girl. I believe
she is actually nice, and I hope I could see the evidence I need for me to say
so.
Keep calm and write a blog post, folks!
Regards,
Ela.
